What to do when dating
“One day I’m her king the next moment I am no good.There is simply no consistency.” My view: “Nice summary – exactly! ” An individual with BPD has a frantic fear of abandonment – which doesn’t help the relationship.It’s overboard across the map: When it’s good it’s great – but when it’s bad it’s really bad.There is no middle ground when standing at the borderline.Constant feelings of emptiness prompt her to seek stimulation from the outside.
She will relentlessly reach out and obsessively try to reestablish the broken bond if the healthy mate decides to break up with her.What’s the major challenge of BPD: It comes seldom alone!Substance and eating disturbances co-occur and mood disorders such as Unipolar Depression and Bipolar disorder generally require a combined treatment consisting of a medication regime and therapy.Remember you cannot make somebody happy – happiness is an inside job! My German grandmother used to say, “ Hope is the last to die.” Yes, certainly there is always hope yet – baseline behavior aka normalcy as you and experience it is a long hike away for people with BPD.This contributes to the feeling of being emotionally drained in a partnership. The good news is that once in our thirties our energy level decreases naturally and hence even individuals with BPD will have less vigor at their disposal.