Internet dating intro

Unlike an everyday face to face meeting where the words just tumble from your mouth in no apparent order.

So why is it that so many guys and girls (yes girls too) fail miserably in avoiding the move from the Inbox to the trash can?

Theirs might be the most beautiful smile in the world, but pointing that fact out in a first message will most likely be a turn off.

While everybody enjoys compliments on their looks, focusing too much on physical looks seems to imply shallowness.

So while you should avoid using netspeak too much, using slang or an unusual greeting is considered a great move.

You could always spruce it up a bit and go with a foreign greeting, but make sure you know what it means otherwise you could come off looking like a bit of a Del boy.

After using Ok Cupid for awhile and realizing that the optimal strategy was to send at-least-okay-quality messages with as little effort as possible, I developed a few template messages that I would usually send.

Using the words, gets better results when sending a first message to a woman but not so to a man.

Presumably men prefer a more confident approach from a woman online, and ladies the opposite, but we certainly don’t suggest going overboard.

It seems this is almost as important as talking about their interests so using any word that describes an interest or hobby is great, once your hobby isn’t too weird.

Ideally, though, you’ll have some sort of common interests and once you’ve picked up on that then a conversation, or better still, a date could be just around the corner.

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