Why isn’t there such an agency for fulfilling this obvious need in our society? Thus far, it has arranged for over 5,000 marriages.
Applicants fill out forms, supply character references and attach a photograph.
Yet hundreds of thousands of unwed girls quit their jobs each year with the frank statement to personnel directors: “All the men here are already married.” An unmarried man makes a trip to a ski resort to ski, and if he meets an attractive woman on a ski slope, he regards that as an unexpected bonus.
He attends a party—or turns down the invitation—after deciding whether or not he will have a good time, and considers the possibility of meeting a girl he wants to marry as incidental.
Hunting for a wife then becomes a much more complex problem. The unattached men must start from scratch to meet girls in the new setting. Many men complain that they search in vain for a woman who lives up to their exacting specifications.
Altogether, some 35 million Americans change their places of residence yearly, as a matter of course. Alfred Kinsey told a 1955 conference sponsored by the Planned Parenthood Federation of America that the changing sex code was “the chief product of the concerted attack on prostitution.” As prostitution disappeared, men began successfully persuading women to enjoy sexual relations with them outside of marriage. Says a 53-year-old Catholic bachelor from a large Eastern city, “I’d have to have a wife who was a Catholic too.
And if a man attends church regularly, this is usually the result of family tradition or personal conviction—not because he knows that many men have met the women who became their wives at church or church socials. Even in the 1960’s, an unmarried man has one special advantage over a single woman.
If a man is still single when he reaches the age of 35, he will probably never marry. Although he may talk constantly of the desire to get married, there is a strong chance that he unconsciously rejects the idea.
Of the total, 14,768,000 are bachelors, 2,161,000 are widowers, and 1,093,000 are divorced.
Why do these men—more than one fourth of the males in the United States—choose to live alone?
A number of readers suggested this sequel—a report on America’s unmarried men.
Today in the United States, there are 18,022,000 men without women.